Mbela owa li wa akukilwa kuuvu oshikando shimwe, ihe otashi vulika wa aluka nziya e to dhimbwa nokuli uuvu mboka? Oluhodhi hasho lu li ngaaka nandonando. Ndohotola Alan Wolfelt okwa nyola membo lye Healing a Spouse’s Grieving Heart a ti: “Oluhodhi ihalu vulu okudhimbiwa nandonando.” Okwa gwedha ko a ti: “Ihe muule wethimbo nosho wo kekwatho lyayalwe, oho vulu okutya po hwepo.”

Pashiholelwa, natu tale kutya tatekulululwa Abraham okwa li i inyenge ngiini sho omukulukadhi gwe a si. Ombiimbeli otayi ti: ‘Abraham okwe mu lili oosa.’ Uutumbulilo ‘okwe mu,’ otawu ulike kutya oshe mu pula ethimbo lyontumba, opo u ungaunge neso ndyoka. * Oshiholelwa shilwe ishewe, oshaJakob, ngoka a li a kengelelwa a zimine kutya omwanamati Josef okwa dhipagwa koshilikama. Okwa lili omwana “ethimbo ele,” noyaandjawo oya li itaaya vulu oku mu hekeleka. Konima yomimvo dhontumba, okwa li natango a sa oluhodhi keso lyaJosef. — Genesis 23:2; 37:34, 35; 42:36; 45:28.

Shoka osha faathana nokunena naamboka haya kala ya nika oluhodhi omolwomaso gaamboka ye hole. Natu tale kiiholelwa iyali tayi landula.

• “Omusamane gwandje, Robert, okwa si mo 9 Juli 2008. Ongula yesiku ndyoka oshiponga shohauto shoka she etitha eso sha ningwa, olya li owala ngaashi omasiku omakwawo. Ngaashi twa li hatu shi ningi shito konima owala ngele twa li oshuumbululwa (olusitati), manga inaya kiilonga otwa li hatu hupitathana, nokupapatelathana, opo nduno tatu lombwelatha kutya ‘ondi ku hole.’ Opwa pita ngashingeyi omimvo hamano, ihe natango onda sa oluhodhi. Kandi wete tandi ka hupula omuholike gwandje Robert.” — Kuku Gail, gwomimvo 60.

• “Nonando nekulu lyandje okwa sa ngashingeyi pwa pita omimvo 18, ohandi kala natango nde mu yuulukwa nohandi si oluhodhi omolweso lye. Aluhe shampa nda mono oshinima shontumba meshito oshiwanawa, ohandi mu dhiladhila noihe kala te vulu uuna ndi ipula kutya ando opo a li ando ota nyanyukilwa shoka ndi wete.” — Tatekulu Etienne, gwomimvo 84.

Osha yela kutya okuuva nayi nokukala u uvite nayi ethimbo ele oshinima shi li paunshitwe. Omuntu kehe oha si oluhodhi momukalo gwi ili, nokashi li pandunge wu mu pangule kutya omolwashike i inyenge momukalo gwontumba omolwoshiponga shoka sha holoka po. Otu na okuyanda okukala tatu ipe uusama ngele twa mono kutya otwa sa oluhodhi unene sha pitilila. Ongiini tatu vulu okuungaunga noluhodhi?