GOMPIENO ditshwantsho tsa tlhakanelodikobo di gongwe le gongwe—mo thelebisheneng, mo difiliming e bile di manegilwe mo mamating a phasalatso. Go lebega batsadi le bana e le bone fela ba sa ntseng ba palelwa ke go buisana ka kgang eno. Mosha mongwe wa dingwaga tsa bolesome yo o bidiwang Michael wa kwa Canada a re: “E kete batsadi ba ka bo ba itse gore go thata jang e bile go tlhabisa ditlhong jang go bua le bone ka tlhakanelodikobo. Go motlhofo go bua le tsala.”

Fela jaaka bana, gantsi batsadi ba okaoka go bua le bana ba bone ka tlhakanelodikobo. Morutisi wa tsa botsogo e bong Debra W. Haffner o bolela jaana mo bukeng ya gagwe ya Beyond the Big Talk: “Batsadi ba le bantsi ba ne ba mpolelela gore ba reketse bana ba bone buka e e buang ka diphetogo tsa bosha, ba bo ba e tlogela mo kamoreng ya ngwana yo o iseng a tsene mo dingwageng tsa bolesome, mme ba se ka ba tlhola ba tlotla ka yone gape.” Haffner a re bana ba tsaya seno se raya gore: “Re batla gore lo itse ka mebele ya lona le ka tlhakanelodikobo; mme ga re batle go bua le lona ka tsone.”

Fa o le motsadi, o tshwanetse go leba dilo ka tsela e e farologaneng. Ruri go botlhokwa thata gore o bue le bana ba gago ka tlhakanelodikobo. Akanya ka mabaka ano a mararo:

1. Tsela e batho ba tlhalosang tlhakanelodikobo ka yone e fetogile. James wa dingwaga tse 20 a re: “Tlhakanelodikobo ga e tlhole e tlhalosiwa fela e le go kopana ga monna le mosadi ba ba nyalaneng. Jaanong go na le tlhakanelodikobo ya molomo, tlhakanelodikobo ya marago le tlhakanelodikobo ka khomputara—tota le tlhakanelodikobo ya go romelelana melaetsa le ditshwantsho tse di hepisang ka founo ya selula.”

2. Bana ba gago ba ka nna ba utlwa tshedimosetso e e seng yone ba sa le bannye. Mmè mongwe yo o bidiwang Sheila a re: “Ba tla utlwa ka tlhakanelodikobo fela fa ba simolola go tsena sekolo, mme ga ba kitla ba e leba ka tsela e o batlang ba e leba ka yone.”

3. Bana ba gago ba na le dipotso ka tlhakanelodikobo mme gongwe ba ka se simolole go tlotla le wena ka kgang eno. Ana wa dingwaga tse 15 wa kwa Brazil a re: “Tota ga ke itse gore nka simolola  jang go tlotla le batsadi ba me ka tlhakanelodikobo.”

Tota go bua le bana ba gago ka tlhakanelodikobo ke karolo ya boikarabelo jo Modimo a go neileng jone jaaka motsadi. (Baefeso 6:4) Ke boammaaruri gore go tlotla ka kgang eno go ka nna thata mo go wena le mo go bone. Mme le fa go ntse jalo, basha ba le bantsi ba dumalana le Danielle wa dingwaga tse 14 yo o reng: “Re batla gore batsadi ba rona e nne bone ba re rutang ka tlhakanelodikobo, e seng morutabana mongwe kgotsa thulaganyo nngwe ya thelebishene.” O ka buisana jang le bana ba gago ka kgang eno e e thata mme e le botlhokwa? *

Basha ba simolola go utlwa ka tlhakanelodikobo ba sa le bannye, ntle le fa e le gore ga ba kopane le batho. Se se tshwenyang le go feta ke gore mo ‘metlheng eno ya bofelo,’ batho ba ba boikepo ba “sulafalela pele.” (2 Timotheo 3:1, 13) Ka maswabi, bana ba le bantsi ba sotliwa ke bagolo ka tlhakanelodikobo.

Ka jalo go botlhokwa gore o simolole go ruta bana ba gago fa ba sa le bannye. Mmè mongwe wa kwa Jeremane yo o bidiwang Renate a re: “Fa o leta gore ba tsene mo dingwageng tsa bolesome ba ka nna ba se ka ba tlotla le wena ba phuthologile ka ntlha ya diphetogo tsa bosha.” Selo sa botlhokwa ke go naya bana tshedimosetso e e tshwanetseng dingwaga tsa bone.

Ba ba iseng ba tsene sekolo:

Tlhoma mogopolo mo go ruteng bana maina a a tshwanetseng a dirwe tsa tlhakanelodikobo, mme o gatelele gore ga di a tshwanela go tshwarwa ke ope. Mmè mongwe wa kwa Mexico yo o bidiwang Julia a re: “Ke simolotse go ruta morwaake fa a ne a na le dingwaga di le tharo. Ke ne ke tshwenngwa thata ke go itse fela gore barutabana, batho ba ba tlhokomelang bana kgotsa bana ba bagolwane mo go ene ba ka mo utlwisa botlhoko. O ne a tshwanetse go itse gore a ka itshireletsa jang.”

Ba ba mo sekolong sa poraemari:

Dirisa dingwaga tseno go oketsa kitso ya ngwana wa gago kgato ka kgato. Rre mongwe yo o bidiwang Peter o akantsha jaana: “Pele ga o ka bua le ene, leka go bona gore o setse a itse eng le gore a a ka rata go itse mo go oketsegileng. O se ka wa mo pateletsa go tlotla. Go ka nna ga itlela fela fa e le gore o tlhola o ipha nako ya go tlotla le bana ba gago.”

Ba ba simololang dingwaga tsa bosha:

Eno ke nako ya go tlhomamisa gore ngwana wa gago o na le kitso e e lekaneng ka kgang ya tlhakanelodikobo malebana le mmele, maikutlo le boitsholo. Ana wa dingwaga tse 15 yo o umakilweng pelenyana a re: “Basimane le basetsana kwa sekolong se ke tsenang kwa go sone ba setse ba tlhakanela dikobo e le go itlosa bodutu fela. Ke akanya gore e re ka ke le Mokeresete, ke tlhoka kitso e e lekaneng ka kgang eno. Le fa go bua ka tlhakanelodikobo go tlhabisa ditlhong, ke tshwanetse go itse ka yone.” *

Tlhagiso: Bana ba dingwaga tsa bolesome ba ka tshaba go botsa dipotso ka gonne ba boifa gore batsadi ba bone ba tla belaela gore ba dira boitshwaro jo bo sa siamang. Rre mongwe yo o bidiwang Steven o ne a lemoga seo. A re: “Morwaarona o ne a okaoka go tlotla ka tlhakanelodikobo. Mme morago re ne ra lemoga gore o ne a akanya gore re belaela boitshwaro jwa gagwe. Re ne ra mo tlhalosetsa  gore re ne re sa tlotle ka dikgang tseno ka gonne re mmelaela; re ne re batla go tlhomamisa fela gore o na le kitso e e lekaneng go mo thusa go emelana le tlhotlheletso e e bosula.”

Gone ke boammaaruri gore go tlotla le bana ba gago ka tlhakanelodikobo e ka nna sengwe sa dilo tse di thata tse o tla tshwanelwang ke go di dira jaaka motsadi. Mme maiteko a o a dirang a tla nna le maduo a a molemo. Mmè mongwe yo o bidiwang Diane a re: “Fa nako e ntse e tsamaya, go tlotla ka tlhakanelodikobo le ngwana wa gago ga go kitla go nna thata, mme tota go ka dira gore lo atamalane thata.” Steven yo o nopotsweng pelenyana o dumalana le mafoko ao. A re: “Go nna motlhofo go tlotla ka dikgang tse di thata jaaka tlhakanelodikobo fa e le gore lo itlwaeditse go tlotla lo phuthologile ka kgang nngwe le nngwe fela e e tsogang mo lapeng.” Mme o oketsa jaana: “Ga se gore go ka se nne thata gotlhelele mme go botlhokwa gore ba lelapa la Bokeresete ba buisane ba gololesegile.”