•   You like to do things even when you not plan to do it. But your husband or wife like to plan everything first before they do it.

•   You not like plenty talking and you like to be by yourself. But your husband or wife like lecturing, and like to be around people.

 Your husband or wife get any way in them that can make you vex? When you focus on it, it will spoil your marriage. That the reason why the Bible say “The one who keeps harping on a matter separates close friends.”—Proverbs 17:9.

 Instead of allowing things you not like about your husband or wife to cause problem in your marriage, maybe you can learn to look at it in different way.

In this article you will learn

•  One good way to look at things you not like about your husband or wife

•  Wetin husbands and wives say

•  Discussion guide

 Maybe the thing you not like about your husband or wife, related to certain quality that you really like. Let just see three examples:

 “Most of the time my husband can be slow to do things or to get ready when we going somewhere. But that the same attitude can make him to be patient with me. Sometime the way he slow, it can really make me vex. But that one of the thing I really like about him.”—Chelsea.

 “My wife like to be exact when planning things. She like for everything to be in place. And that one can really make me vex. But the way she can be exact on things, can always make her to be prepare.”—Christopher.

 “My husband can just take his own time in doing things. And it can really make me feel bad. But that one of the things that really make me to like him. I just like the way he able to control himself and not be worrying even when we going through serious problems.”—Danielle.

 From what Chelsea, Christopher, and Danielle learn, your husband or wife strengths and weaknesses come from the same quality you like about them. But they can show it in different ways. So you can’t focus on your husband or wife weakness and forget about their strength.

 Not every attitude get good side. For example, the Bible say that some people quick to get vex. (Proverbs 29:22) In that case, the person must try hard to put away “every kind of malicious bitterness, anger, wrath, screaming, and abusive speech.” a—Ephesians 4:31.

 But if the attitude your husband or wife get can just make you vex, then follow the Bible advice that in Colossians 3:13. It say, “Continue putting up with one another. . . even if anyone has a cause for complaint.

 Beside this one, always try to find the good side of the quality in your husband or wife that really make you to love them. One husband name Joseph say, “Focusing on the thing we not like about our husband or wife, can be just like looking at the sharp side of the diamond but not seeing the beauty.”

 First, two of yor must answer this question them on your own. Then after that, yor must discuss the answers with each other.

•   Your husband and wife get certain way in them that causing problem in your marriage? If that what happening, then that wetin?

•   It really serious, or that just something that can make you vex?

•   You can think on any good thing you like about that attitude? If yes, that wetin, and why you like it?