change sanskara karke tuhadi zindagi de tinn pehluaa vich sudhar ho sakda hai:

1.  1. tuhadi neknaami. tusi lokaa naal jis tareeke naal pesh aaunde ho, os da ohna te changa ja bura asar painda hai. je tuhade vich vadiya sanskar han, taa lok sochange ki tusi samajhdar te zimmevar ho. oh tuhade naal vadiya tareeke naal pesh aaunge. par je tuhada subhaa rukha ja arrab hai, taa lok ehi sochange ki tusi sirf apne bare hi sochde ho. nale oh shayad tuhanu kamm te na rakhan atey tuhade hatho hor mauke khunjh jaan. bible dassdi hai ki “jehrra nirdayi hai oh apne hi sareer nu dukh dinda hai.”​—kahauta 11:17.

2.  2. tuhade dost. bible kehndi hai: “tusi ik-dooje naal pyaar karo kyoki pyaar hi sarya nu ekta de bandhan vich poori tarha bannhda hai.” (kulussiya 3:14) eh dosti de mamle bare vi sach hai. lok ohna vall khiche jande han jinha de sanskar vadiya hunde han atey jo vadiya tareeke naal pesh aaunde han. kaun kise rukhe viakti da dost ban-na chahega?

3.  3. lok jis tareeke naal tuhade naal pesh aaunde han. jennifer naa di naujavan kehndi hai: “je tusi hamesha vadiya tareeke naal pesh aaunde ho, taa same de beetan naal tusi doojya de vivhar vich vi sudhar dekhoge, itho tak ki rukhe tareeke naal pesh aaun valya de vivhar vich vi.” bina shakk, je tusi kise naal rukhe tareeke naal pesh aaoge, taa oh vi tuhade naal ise tarha pesh aavega. bible dassdi hai: “jis maap naal tusi doosrya nu maap ke dinde ho, ose maap naal oh tuhanu vi maap ke denge.”​—matti 7:2.

 mukh gall: asi har roz lokaa naal gallbaat karde ha. tusi jis tareeke naal pesh aaunde ho, os aadhaar te lok tuhade bare apni rai kaiyam karde han atey tuhade naal pesh aaunde han. matlab tuhade change sanskara naal vakayi farak painda hai.

1.   apne sanskara di khud janch karo. apne aap to ajehe savaal puchho: ‘kee mai vaddya naal aadar naal pesh aaunda ha? mai kinni ku vaar “please,” “thankyou” atey “excuse me” kehnda ha? kee doojya naal gall kardya mera dhyaan kise hor pase hunda hai, jive parhan atey message karan vall? kee mai apne maapya atey bhena-bhrava naal aadar naal pesh aaunda ha ja kee mai apne “parivar de membra” naal jidda chahunda ha, udda gall karda?’

    bible dassdi hai: “ik-dooje di izzat karan vich pehel karo.”​—romiya 12:10.

2.   teeche rakho. tinn galla likho jinha vich tusi sudhar karna chahunde ho. misal layi, 15 saala di alison kehndi hai ki os nu “aape boli jaan di bajaye doosrya di gall sunn-ni” chaheedi hai. 19 saala da david kehnda hai ki os nu apne parivar te dosta naal hundya message karan di aadat te kaabu paaun di lorr hai. oh kehnda hai: “eh vadiya gall nahi hai. idda kar ke mai dikhaunda ha ki ohna naal gall di bajaye mai kise hor naal gall karni chahunda ha.” 17 saala da edward dassda hai ki jado dooje gall karde han, taa ohna nu viche tokan di apni aadat nu sudharan di lorr hai. jennifer, jis da pehla zikar keeta gaya si, nu vaddya naal pesh aaun sambandhi apne vich sudhar karan di lorr hai. oh dassdi hai: “mai jaldi naal ohna nu ‘namaste’ keh ke apne dosta naal gall karan lagg paindi si. par hun mai ohna nu jaanan di koshish kardi ha. is tarha mai apne vich kaafi sudhar kar saki ha.”

    bible dassdi hai: “tusi apne bare hi na socho, sago doosrya de bhale bare vi socho.”​—filippiya 2:4.

3.   dekho ki tusi kinna sudhar keeta. ik mahine layi apni bolchal ja pesh aaun de tareeke te dhyaan dyo atey dekho ki tuhanu kithe sudhar karan di lorr hai. mahine de akheer vich apne aap to puchho: ‘change sanskar dikhaun karke mai kive hor vadiya insaan bann sakya ha? mainu kinha mamlya vich aje vi sudhar karan di lorr hai?’ fir is mutabak nave teeche rakho.

    bible dassdi hai: “jis tarha tusi chahunde ho ki doosre tuhade naal pesh aaun, tusi vi ohna naal ose tarha pesh aao.”​—luka 6:31.