tuhanu oh munda bahut pasand hai atey tuhanu poora yakeen hai ki oh vi tuhanu bahut pasand karda hai. tusi har vele ik-dooje nu message bhejde rehnde ho, partiya vich hamesha ikatthe rehnde ho . . . atey os de kujh messaja to pata laggda hai ki oh akkh-matakka kar reha hai.

 is layi tusi os nu eh puchhan da faisla karde ho ki sadde dona vich kee chall reha hai kyoki tusi jaan-na chahunde ho ki oh tuhade bare vi ove hi mehsoos karda hai jive tusi os bare mehsoos karde ho. oh javab dinda hai, “mai tainu sirf ik dost samajhda ha hor kujh nahi.”

•  tuhanu kidda lagga

•  idda kyo hunda hai

•  tusi kee kar sakde ho

 “mainu bahut gussa aaya. os te vi atey apne te vi. asi har roz ik-dooje nu message bhejde si. os ne mere vich inni dilchaspi dikhayi ki mai vi os nu pasand karan lagg payi.”​—jasmine.

 “ik munda-kudi dating kar rahe san. mai te ik kudi aksar ohna naal jande hunde si. kayi vaar idda lagga jive ohna de naal-naal asi dove vi dating kar rahe hoyiye. asi dove ik-dooje naal bahut galla karde si atey bahut sare message bhejde si. par jado os ne keha ki oh mainu sirf ik dost manndi hai, taa mere paira hetho zameen khisak gayi. darasal oh kise hor nu pasand kardi si.”​—richard.

 “ik munda roz mainu message karda hunda si. kade-kade taa sadde messaja vich pyaar-muhabat jhalkdi si. par jado mai os nu dassya ki mai os nu pasand kardi ha, taa oh hassan lagg pya. os ne keha, ‘mai aje kise naal dating nahi karna chahunda.’ eh sunn ke mai kayi dina tak rondi rehi.”​—tamara.

 mukh gall: ho sakda hai ki tusi kise nu khaas samjhan lagg paye ho. par jado tuhanu pata laggda hai ki eh pyaar ik tarfa hai, taa tuhanu zaroor gussa aavega, tusi sharmindgi mehsoos karoge ja tuhanu eh vi lagg sakda hai ki tuhade naal dhokha hoya hai. stephen naa da naujavan munda kehnda hai, “jado mere naal idda hoya, taa mai poori tarha tutt gaya atey mainu bahut dukh lagga. is to baad mai jaldi kise te bharosa nahi kar sakya.”

 message ja soshal media de zariye eh barra asaan ho gaya hai ki ik munda-kudi galla-galla vich ajehe viakti nu dil de baithan jo ohna nu pasand nahi karda. gaur karo ki kujh naujavana ne kee keha.

 “ho sakda hai ki ik munda sirf time paas karan layi tuhanu message bhejda hai. par tuhanu shayad lagge ki oh tuhade vich dilchaspi lai reha hai. je oh tuhanu har roz message bhejda hai, taa tuhanu galatfehmi ho sakdi hai ki tusi os layi khaas ho.”​—jennifer.

 “shayad ik jana dooje nu pasand karda hove, par ho sakda hai ki doosra os naal sirf galla hi karniya chahunda hai ja os nu sirf kise ajehe viakti di lorr hai jo os nu hausla de sake.”​—james.

 “ik chhote jehe ‘good-night’ message nu vi galat samjhya ja sakda hai bhave ki message bhejan vale de dil vich tuhade layi kujh na hove. eh idda hai jive koi kastmar kear vala tuhanu ‘good night’ message bhej reha hove.”—heli.

 “message vich smiley face dekh ke shayad parhan vala samjhe ki tusi os nu eh dost de nate bhejya hai ja os naal akkh-matakka kar rahe ho.”​—aleesya.

 mukh gall: kise vallo dikhayi gayi parvah nu pyaar na samjho.

 mannya ki idda kehna saukha hai, par karna aukha hai. bible kehndi hai: “dil sabh cheeza nalo dhokhebaz hai, oh pujj ke kharab hai.” (yirmiyah 17:9) is layi tusi ‘hava vich pyaar de mehel usaran’ lagg sakde ho. par jidda hi tuhanu ehsas hunda hai ki eh sirf tuhade mann di kalpna hai, taa tuhade sare supne choor-choor ho jande han.

•   parakh ke dekho. thoda ruko atey is rishte bare socho. apne aap to puchho, ‘mai inne yakeen naal kyo keh sakda ha ki oh mainu sirf apna dost nahi samjhdi?’ bhavnava vich veh ke “apni sochan-samjhan di kabliyat” na guaao.​—romiya 12:1.

•   samajhdar bano. ho sakda hai ki ik viakti diya galla to lagge ki oh tuhanu dost nalo vadh ke samajhda hai. idda diya galla tuhade mann vich shakk paida kardiya han atey ihna galla vall tuhanu khaas dhyaan den di lorr hai. idda na socho ki je tusi kise nu pasand karde ho, taa is da matlab hai ki oh vi tuhanu pasand karda hai.

•   dheeraj rakho. jinna chir samne vala viakti khud tuhanu saaf-saaf na kahe ki oh tuhanu pasand karda hai atey tuhanu jaan-na chahunda hai, unna chir tusi aap os rishte nu agge na vadhao. idda karan naal tuhada dil tuttan to bach sakda hai.

•   sach bolo. bible kehndi hai ki “ik bolan da vela hai” (updeshak di pothi 3:7) je tusi jaan-na chahunde ho ki ik viakti tuhanu dost to vadh samajhda hai ja nahi, taa os viakti naal gall karo. valerie naa di naujavan kehndi hai, “je pyaar ik tarfa hai, taa is bare jaldi pata lagaun naal tuhanu unna dukh nahi hovega jinna tuhanu odo hovega jado mahineya baad tuhanu pata laggega ki os viakti nu tuhade vich koi dilchaspi nahi hai.”

 mukh gall: kahauta 4:23 vich likhya hai: “apne mann di vaddi chauksi kar.” je tusi kise viakti nu pasand karan lagg paye ho, taa pata lagao ki oh vi tuhanu pasand karda hai ja nahi. eh pata lagaun to pehla os nu dil de baithna idda hai jive tusi ik pathar te pauda laun di koshish kar rahe ho.

 je tuhanu pata laggda hai ki oh viakti vi tuhanu pasand karda hai atey tuhadi umar dating karan di hai te tusi is layi tyaar vi ho, taa faisla karo ki tusi is rishte nu agge vadhauna hai ja nahi. yaad rakho, viah da bandhan odo mazboot hunda hai jado parmeshwar di seva vich pati-patni de teeche ikko jehe hunde han atey oh ik dooje prati imandar hunde han. (1 kurinthiya 7:39) asal vich, ohna de rishte di shuruaat dosti de ik change rishte to hundi hai atey oh zindagi bhar ik-dooje de change dost bane rehnde han.—kahauta 5:18.