tusi chahunde ho ki jado tuhada dost tuhade naal gall karni chahunda hai, taa tusi sunan layi hamesha tyaar raho. ho sakda hai ki tusi kujh same to apne ik dost naal kujh ziada hi galla kar rahe ho. par oh ik kudi hai! tusi shayad kaho, ‘asi taa bas vadiya dost hi ha.’ tuhanu laggda hai ki oh vi ehi manndi hai, taa fir is vich kee burayi hai?

•  kee ho sakda hai

•  is bare kyo sochiye

•  tusi kee kar sakde ho

•  sujhaa

 munde-kudi vich dosti honi koi buri gall nahi hai. par kee tusi kise kudi vall ziada hi dhyaan de rahe ho? je idda hai, taa os nu lagg sakda hai ki tusi is dosti nu agge vadhauna chahunde ho.

 kee tusi vi ehi chahunde ho? kehrriya galla karke os kudi nu idda lagga? aao dekhiye.

•   tusi kise vall ziada hi dhyaan de rahe ho.

   “bhave tusi doosrya diya bhavnava nu rok nahi sakde, par ohna nu vadhao vi na. ik pase tusi keh rahe ho ki tusi sirf dost hi ho, par dooje pase tusi sara-sara din os naal galla karde rehnde ho.”—sierra.

•   koi tuhade vich dilchaspi lai reha hai te jaane-anjane vich tusi vi os nu hava de rahe ho.

   “ik kudi mainu bahut sare message bhejdi si. bhave ki message bhejan da silsila mai shuru nahi keeta si, par mai os de har message da hamesha javab dinda si. agge chall ke mere layi os nu eh samjhauna aukha ho gaya ki mai os nu sirf ik dost hi samajhda si.”​—richard.

•   koi tuhade vich dilchaspi lai reha hai te tusi vi os diya bhavnava nu bharrka rahe ho.

   “kayi lok ishkbazi nu khed samajhde han. oh sirf pyaar karan da natak karde han atey doosrya diya bhavnava naal khed-de han. mai bahut vaar idda hunda dekhya hai atey har vaar kise-na-kise da dil tuttda hai.”​—tamara.

 mukh gall: je tusi kise naal har roz gall karde ho, taa is to os nu ehi ishara milega ki tusi os nu pasand karde ho.

•   is naal doosre viakti nu dukh pahunch sakda hai.

   bible kehndi hai: “aas di dhill dil nu bimar kardi hai.” (kahauta 13:12) je tuhanu kise de messaja to eh ishara mile ki oh tuhanu pasand karda hai, taa tusi kee umeed karoge?

   “ik kahavat kehndi hai, ‘kise nu kundi vich fasa ke rakhna’ jis da matlab hai ki je tuhadi kundi vich machhi fasi hoi hai, par na taa tusi os nu paani vich vapas chhadd rahe ho te na hi tusi os nu apni vall khich rahe ho. rishtya vich vi idda ho sakda hai. je tusi dating layi tyaar nahi ho, par tusi kise nu kundi vich fasa ke rakhya hoya hai, taa tusi os da dil dukha rahe ho.”​—jessica.

•   is naal tuhada naa badnam ho sakda hai.

   bible kehndi hai: “tusi apne bare hi na socho, sago doosrya de bhale bare vi socho.” (filippiya 2:4) tusi os viakti bare kee sochoge jo sirf apne bare hi sochda hai? idda kar ke oh keho jeha naa kama reha hai?

   “mainu oh munde zara vi pasand nahi han jo kudiya naal akkh-matakka karde han. is tarha diya harkata karke oh dikhaunde han ki oh agge chall ke apni patni de vi vafadar nahi rehnge. idda de lok suaarthi hunde han kyoki oh bas kudiya de samne apni taur banaun layi ohna nu fasaunde han.”​—julia.

 mukh gall: je koi viakti kise nu eh ishara dinda hai ki oh os nu pasand karda hai jad ki os de dil vich os layi is tarha di koi bhavna nahi hai, taa oh khud nu atey os nu dukh pahunchaunda hai.

•   bible kehndi hai ki sanu “naujavana nu bhra samajh ke” atey “apne to chhotiya kudiya nu saaf dil naal bhena samajh ke” pesh aauna chaheeda hai. (1 timothius 5:1, 2) je tusi is salah anusar challo, taa kudiya-mundya naal tuhadi dosti kade nahi tuttegi.

   “je mai viahi hundi, taa mai kise hor de jeevan saathi naal akkh-matakka na kardi. is layi vadiya hai ki mai hun to hi eh aadat pava ki mai kise naal akkh-matakka nahi karangi.”​—leah.

•   bible kehndi hai: “gappa de vadhe vich apradh di kami nahi.” (kahauta 10:19) eh asool sirf gallbaat te hi nahi, sago message bhejan te vi laagu hunda hai. is da matlab hai ki sanu dhyaan rakhna chaheeda hai ki asi doosrya nu kinni vaar message karde ha atey message vich kee likhde ha.

   “ik kudi nu bina dating de irade naal har roz message karna sahi nahi hai.”​—brian.

•   bible kehndi hai: ‘jis insaan nu swargo budh mili hai, oh insaan sabh to pehla shudh hai.’ (yakoob 3:17) tusi shayad nek irade naal kise nu jaffi pao, par kadi-kadayi samne vale nu lagg sakda hai ki tusi os vich dilchaspi lai rahe ho.

   “mai sarya naal vadiya tareeke naal gall karan di koshish kardi ha, par mai is gall da khayal rakhdi ha ki mai kise munde naal gall kardya na oh de ziada nerre kharha te na hi jazbati taur te nazdeekiya vadhava.”​—maria.

 mukh gall: dhyaan naal khud di janch karo ki tusi kise kudi ja munde naal kive pesh aaunde ho. jennifer naa di naujavan kehndi hai: “change dost saukhya hi nahi milde. is layi tusi nahi chahoge ki tuhadiya galla ja kamma to ohna nu koi galat ishara mile jis karke tuhadi dosti tutt jave.”

•    dhyaan dyo ki dooje kee kehnde han. je koi tuhanu puchhda hai, “kee tusi dove dating kar rahe ho?” fir samajh jao ki shayad tusi os naal kujh ziada hi ghul-mil rahe ho.

•    sare dosta naal ikko jeha pesh aao. kise ik kudi ja munde vall bakiya nalo ziada dhyaan na dyo.

•   soch-samajh ke message bhejo. is gall da dhyaan rakho ki tusi kee message bhejde ho, kinni vaar bhejde ho atey kis same te bhejde ho. alysa kehndi hai, “adhi raat nu kise munde nu message bhejna theek nahi hovega.”