•  tuhada apne bare kee khayal hai?

•  eh gall maene kyo rakhdi hai?

•  tusi kee kar sakde ho?

•  is bare hor parho

•  tuhade hani kee kehnde han

•   aashavadi

   “mai khush rehen di koshish kardi ha te pareshan nahi hundi. mai roz hassde-hassde zindagi kyo nahi guzar sakdi?”—valerie.

•   nirashavadi

   “kujh vi changa dekh ke mere mann vich pehla khayal ehi aaunda ki daal vich kujh taa kala hai—eh sach ho hi nahi sakda.”—rebecca.

•   aslvadi

   “je mai hamesha ehi sochi java ki mere naal changa hi hovega, taa kujh bura hon te mai nirash ho javangi. je mai socha ki mere naal bura hovega, taa hamesha dukhi rahangi. is layi mai na taa ziada umeeda rakhdi ha te na hi poori tarha umeed chhadd-di ha. is tarha mai sahi soch rakhdya hakeekat da samna kar paundi ha.”—aana.

 bible kehndi hai: “change dil vala sadaa dauta udaunda hai.” (kahauta 15:15) is to saaf pata laggda hai ki jehrre lok nirash karan valiya galla to door rehnde han atey zindagi bare sahi nazria rakhde han, oh khush rehnde han. oh aksar ziada lokaa naal dosti kar paunde han. asal vich ajehe lokaa naal kaun sama bitauna chahega jo hamesha nirash hi rehnde han?

 je tusi sahi soch rakhde vi ho, taa vi tuhanu mushkla jhallaniya pai sakdiya han. misal layi:

•   tuhanu shayad har pase yudh, attvad ja juram diya khabra sunan nu milan.

•   shayad tuhade parivar vich tuhanu mushkla jhallaniya pain.

•   tuhanu shayad apnia kamiya-kamzoriya naal larrna pave.

•   shayad tuhada koi dost tuhada dil dukhave.

 ihna samassyaava nu nazarandaz na karo te na hi ihna bare soch-soch ke pareshan hovo. is di bajaye, sahi nazria banayi rakho. is tarha karan naal tuhade mann vich haddo vadh nirash karan valiya galla nahi aaungiya atey tusi zindagi vich aaundiya samassyaava da samna kar sakoge.

•   apnia galtiya bare sahi nazria rakho.

   bible kehndi hai: “dharti utte ajeha sachyaar aadmi taa koi nahi, jo bhaliayi hi kare atey paap na kare.” (updeshak di pothi 7:20) is to pata laggda hai ki insaan hon karke tuhade vich kamiya han te tusi galtiya karde ho, par tusi nikamme nahi ho.

   sahi soch rakho: apnia galtiya sudharan di koshish karo, par yaad rakho ki tuhade to hamesha sahi kamm nahi honge. kelab naa da naujavan kehnda hai, “mai apnia galtiya bare haddo vadh nahi sochda. is di bajaye, mai ohna to sikhan di koshish karda ha taaki mai apne vich sudhar kar saka.”

•   doojya naal apni tulna na karo.

   bible kehndi hai: “aao aapa na hi hankaar kariye, na hi mukabla karan layi ik-dooje nu uksayiye atey na hi ik-dooje naal irkha kariye.” (galatiya 5:26) jado tusi soshal media utte ohna partiya diya tasveera dekhde ho jinha vich tuhanu nahi bulaya gaya si, taa tuhanu gussa charh sakda hai. shayad tusi sochan lagg po ki tuhade dost tuhanu pasand nahi karde.

   sahi soch rakho: eh gall samajh lo ki tuhanu har party vich nahi bulaya javega. eh vi yaad rakho ki social media utliya photoa to poori gall pata nahi laggdi. 16 saala di alexi kehndi hai, “lok soshal media te ohi photoa paunde han jinha vich oh khush nazar aaunde han. oh ajehiya photoa nahi paunde jinha vich oh ziada khush nahi hunde.”

•   apne parivar vich khushi banayi rakho.

   bible kehndi hai: “je ho sake, taa doosrya naal shanti banayi rakhan di poori koshish karo.” (romiya 12:18) eh tuhade vass vich nahi hai ki doosre tuhade naal kive pesh aaunde han, par tusi ohna naal kive pesh aaunde ho, eh tuhade vass vich hai. tusi chaho, taa ohna naal shanti naal pesh aa sakde ho.

   sahi soch rakho: jive tusi apne dosta naal mil ke rehnde ho, ose tarha parivar vich shanti banaa ke rakho taaki parivar vich tanaa na vadhe. 15 saala di malinda kehndi hai, “asi sare galtiya karde ha atey asi kade na kade apnia galla te kamma naal doojya nu thes pahunchaunde ha. eh sadde te nirbhar karda hai ki asi doojya naal shanti naal pesh aavange ja ladai karange.”

•   shukarguzar hona sikho.

   bible kehndi hai: “dikhao ki tusi shukarguzar ho.” (kulussiya 3:15) je tusi shukarguzar hovoge, taa tusi apni zindagi vich ho rehiya changiya galla te dhyaan laoge, na ki ohna galla te jehrriya tuhanu sahi nahi laggdiya.

   sahi soch rakho: dekho ki samassya kee hai, par is de naal-naal apni zindagi vich hon valiya changiya galla te vi dhyaan dyo. ribaika naa di kudi kehndi hai, “har roz mai apni zindagi di ik changi gall apni diary vich likh laindi ha. is tarha mainu yaad rehnda hai ki meri zindagi vich bahut sariya changiya galla vi han jinha bare mai soch sakdi ha.”

•   soch-samajh ke dost banao.

   bible kehndi hai: “buriya sangta changiya aadata vigarr dindiya han.” (1 kurinthiya 15:33) je tusi ajehe lokaa naal sama bitaunde ho jo doojya vich nuks kadhde han, ohna di burayi karde han ja hamesha burr-burr karde rehnde han, taa tusi vi ohna varge bann jaoge.

   sahi soch rakho: jado tuhade dost mushkal gharriya vicho guzar rahe hunde han, taa kujh same layi oh nirash ho sakde han. ohna da saath dyo, par ohna de dukh nu dekh ke bahut ziada dukhi na hovo. 24 saal di michelle kehndi hai, “saddi dosti sirf ajehe lokaa naal nahi honi chaheedi jo kujh vi changa hon di umeed nahi rakhde.”

 bible mutabak asi “museebta naal bhare” same vich reh rahe ha. (2 timothius 3:1) kee tuhanu mushkla naal bhari is duniya vich sahi nazria rakhna aukha lagg reha hai? tusi eh jaankari parh sakde ho: “duniya te inni bhaari kyo aayi hoi hai?”