tuhada jeevan-saathi shayad is tarha da kujh kehnda hai ja karda hai jis karke tuhanu gusse charhda hai atey tusi apna gussa chhupaun di koshish karde ho. par tuhade saathi nu pata lagg janda hai ki kujh taa hoya hai atey oh tuhanu savaal puchhne shuru kar dinda hai. is karke tuhanu hor vi gussa charhda hai. is tarha de halaata vich tusi apne gusse ’te kaabu kive pa sakde ho?

•  tuhanu kee pata hona chaheeda?

•  tusi kee kar sakde ho?

•   gussa karan naal tuhadi sehat vigarr sakdi hai. ik survey mutabak apne gusse ’te kaabu na paaun valya nu high blood pressure, dil di bimari, depression atey pachan sambandhi samassyaava hon da khatra vadh janda hai. nale gusse karke neend ghatt aaundi hai, vadhere chinta hundi hai, chamrri diya bimariya ho sakdiya atey daura vi pai sakda hai. ise karke bible salah dindi hai: “krodh nu chhadd . . . . os to buriayi hi nikkldi hai.”—zaboora di pothi 37:8.

•   mann vich gussa rakhna vi khatarnak hunda hai. mann hi mann vich gussa kari jana os bimari vang hai jo tuhanu andro-andri nuksan pahunchaundi hai. oh kive? shayad tuhada ravaiya idda da ho jave ki tusi gall-gall ’te nuktacheeni karan lagg po. is tarha de ravayiye karke tuhada jeena aukha ho sakda hai atey is naal tuhada viahuta rishta vi tutt sakda hai.

•   apne saathi de change gunn dekho. apne jeevan saathi de tinn gunn likho jo tuhanu change laggde han. fir agli vaar jado tuhanu apne saathi di kise gall karke gussa charhe, taa os de ohna gunna bare socho. is tarha tusi apne gusse ’te kaabu pa sakoge.

   bible da asool: “dikhao ki tusi shukarguzar ho.”—kulussiya 3:15.

•    doojya nu maaf karan layi tyaar raho. pehla, mamle nu apne saathi de nazriye to dekhan di koshish karo. is tarha tusi humdardi dikha sakoge jidda bible kehndi hai “ik-dooje da saath dyo.” (1 patras 3:8) dooja, apne aap to puchho, ‘kee gall sach-much inni vaddi hai ki mai apne saathi nu maaf nahi kar sakda?’

   bible da asool: “apradh to muh fer lain vich oh di shaan hai.”—kahauta 19:11.

•    pyaar atey samajhdari naal apnia bhavnava dasso. gall kardya “mai” atey “mainu” varge shabd varto. misal layi, apne saathi nu eh na kaho, “tusi mainu kade phone kar ke nahi dassde ki tusi kithe ho. tuhanu taa koi fikar hi nahi hai.” is di bajaye, eh kaho “jado tusi let ho jande ho, taa mainu tuhada bahut fikar hon lagg painda te mann vich tarha-tarha de khayal aaun lagg painde han.” pyaar naal apne dil di gall dassan naal tusi apne gusse ’te kaabu pa sakoge.

   bible da asool: “jive loon khane nu suaadi banaunda hai, ose tarha tusi saleeke naal gall karo taaki sunan vale nu tuhadiya galla changiya laggan.”—kulussiya 4:6.

•    dhyaan naal gall suno. apne dil di gall dassan to baad apne saathi nu gall karan da mauka dyo atey bina toke dhyaan naal os di gall suno. fir eh jaanan layi ki tuhanu apne saathi di gall sahi-sahi samajh laggi hai ki nahi, os di gall nu apne shabda vich duhrao. sirf gall sunan naal hi tusi kaafi hadd tak apne gusse ’te kaabu paaun sakde ho.

   bible da asool: “sunan layi tyaar rahe, bolan vich kahli na kare.”—yakoob 1:19.