mapya layi
8: misal bano
is da ki matlab hai?
jehrre mappe apne bachya layi vadiya misal rakhde han, oh ohna galla mutabak khud vi chalde han jo oh apne bachya nu sikhaunde han. misal layi, je tuhade ghar koi aaya hai te tusi os naal gal nahi karni chahunde te tuhada munda tuhanu eh kehnde hoye sunda hai: “os nu keh de ki mai ghare nahi.” ki tusi apne munde to sach bolan di umeed rakh sakde?
“mappe apne bachya to eh aas nahi rakh sakde ki oh ohna de kahe mutabak kamm karange je mappe aap oh kamm nahi karde. bache sponge di tarha hunde han. tusi jo karde ho atey jo kehnde ho oh sara kujh sokh lainde han atey jado mappe bachya nu sikhaiya galla mutabak nahi chalde, ta bache ohna nu dass dinde han.”—david.
bible da asool: “tu doojya nu sikhya dinda hai, ‘chori na kar,’ par ki tu aap chori karda hai?”—romiya 2:21.
eh zaroori kyo hai?
bachya atey naujavana di zindagi vich mapya to chhutt kise da vi inna asar nahi painda, fir gal chahe ohna de dosta di hi kyo na hove. is da matlab hai ki tusi apne bachya nu vadiya tareeke naal sikha sakde ho. par sirf odo jado tusi apni sikhya mutabak khud chalde ho.
“kayi vaar asi apne bache nu koi gal sau vari kehnde ha te asi sochde ha ki oh sunn vi reha ki nahi. par je tusi ik vari vi apne kahe mutabak kamm nahi keeta, ta oh tuhanu tok denge. chahe sanu laggda hai ki sadde bache sadde val dhyaan nahi de rahe, par oh saddi har gal val dhyaan dinde han.”—nicole.
bible da asool: “jis insaan nu swargo budh mili hai, oh . . . pakhand nahi karda.”—yakoob 3:17.
tusi ki kar sakde ho?
apne myaara di janch karo. tusi kis tarha da manoranjan pasand karde ho? tusi apne jeevan-sathi atey bachya naal kive pesh aunde ho? tuhade dost keho jehe han? ki tusi doosrya bare sochde ho? mukdi gal, ki tusi khud udda de insaan ho jis tarha da tusi apne bachya nu banauna chahunde ho?
“mai te mera pati bachya nu ohna myaara te chalan layi nahi kehnde jinha te asi khud nahi chalde.”—kristeen.
apnia galtiya layi maafi mango. tuhade bachya nu eh gal pata hai ki tusi vi galtiya karde ho. par galti hon te apne jeevan-sathi atey bachya nu “mainu maaf kar dyo” varge shabd kehen naal tusi ohna nu eemandar atey nimar banna sikhaunde ho.
“jado asi galat hunde ha, ta eh zaroori hai ki sadde bache sanu galti kabool kardya atey maafi mangdya sunan. je asi idda nahi karde, ta oh vi galti hon te maafi mangan di bajaye bahane maarange.”—robin.
“bachya te sabh to ziada asar ohna de mapya da painda hai. is layi apni misal duaara sikhauna sabh to vadiya tareeka hai kyoki bache har vele sanu dekhde han. apni misal duaara sikhauna ik khulli kitab vang hai jis to tusi har vele sikha sakde ho.”—vaindal.
