Isahluko 5

Kutheni Ufanele Uhlale Unyulu?

“Ndiziva ndinyanzelekile ukuba ndibe neentlobano zesini.”—UKelly.

“Ndivakalelwa ngathi kukho into engemanga kakuhle ngam kuba ndisenyulu.”—UJordon.

“NGABA usenyulu?” Ukuva nje umbuzo onjalo kunokukwenza urhwaqele! Kwamanye amazwe umntu oselula osenyulu ugqalwa njengowahlukileyo. Yiloo nto ebangela abantwana abaninzi abafikisayo babe neentlobano zesini!

Ukutsalwa Ngumnqweno Nempembelelo Yoontanga

Ukuba ungumKristu, uyazi ukuba iBhayibhile ithi umele ‘ukhwebuke kuhenyuzo.’ (1 Tesalonika 4:3) Nakuba kunjalo,  usenokukufumanisa kunzima ukulawula umnqweno wakho wesini. Omnye umfana ogama linguPaul uthi: “Ngamanye amaxesha, iingcinga zesini zithi qatha engqondweni ngaphandle kwesizathu.” Kuqhelekile ukuba neemvakalelo ezinjalo.

Noko ke, akumnandanga ukugculelwa ngenxa yokuba unyulu! Ngokomzekelo, kuthekani ukuba oontanga bakho bathi akuyondoda okanye ibhinqa lokwenene xa ungekabi nazo iintlobano zesini? UEllen uthi: “Oontanga bakho basenokwenza kubonakale ngathi ukuba neentlobano zesini kumnandi yaye yinto eqhelekileyo. Ukuba akunazintlobano zesini, ujongwa njengomntu ongafaniyo nabanye.”

 Kodwa ikho into oontanga bakho abasenokungayikhankanyi ngokuphathelele isini. Ngokomzekelo, uMaria owaba neentlobano zesini nomfana awayethandana naye, uthi: “Emva koko ndaba neentloni. Ndandizithiyile, ndithiye naloo mfana.” Kuqhelekile ukuba neemvakalelo ezinjalo nakuba ulutsha oluninzi lungakuqondi oko. Enyanisweni, ukuba neentlobano zesini ngaphambi komtshato kubangela umvandedwa!

Noko ke, uShanda oselula uthi, “Kutheni uThixo edale abantu abaselula ukuba babe nomnqweno wesini, esazi ukuba kufuneka bahlale benyulu de batshate?” Ngumbuzo omhle lowo. Kodwa khawucinge ngezi nkalo zilandelayo:

Ngaba umnqweno wesini kuphela komnqweno onawo? Akunjalo. UYehova uThixo ukudale waneemvakalelo neminqweno eyahlukahlukeneyo.

Ngaba ufanele wanelise nawuphi na umnqweno onawo? Akunjalo, kaloku uThixo ukwenze ukuba ukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho.

Sifunda ntoni koku? Ukuba neminqweno ethile kusenokungaphepheki, kodwa unako ukulawula oko ukwenzayo ngaloo mnqweno. Eneneni, ukwanelisa umnqweno wesini ngalo lonke ixesha kuphosakele yaye bubudenge, kufana nje nomntu obetha abanye qho xa enomsindo.

 Enyanisweni, yayingeyonjongo kaThixo ukuba siwasebenzise kakubi amalungu ethu okuzala. IBhayibhile ithi: “Ngamnye wenu [ufanele] akwazi ukusizuza esakhe isitya ngobungcwalisa nembeko.” (1 Tesalonika 4:4) Kanye njengokuba kukho “ixesha lokuthanda nexesha lokuthiya,” likho ixesha lokwanelisa umnqweno wesini nexesha omele uzibambe ngalo. (INtshumayeli 3:1-8) Ngapha koko, nguwe omele ulawule umnqweno onawo!

Kodwa yintoni omele uyenze xa umntu ekugculela, esithi, “Ngaba nyhani usenyulu?” Musa ukukhathazeka. Ukuba umntu uyakugculela, usenokuthi: “Ewe, ndisenyulu, yaye ndinebhongo ngaloo nto!” Okanye usenokuthi, “Andithandi ukuthetha nabanye abantu ngalo mbandela.” a (IMizekeliso 26:4; Kolose 4:6) Kwelinye icala, usenokuvakalelwa kukuba ufanele umphendule loo mntu ukubuzayo. Ukuba kunjalo, usenokumchazela izizathu ezisekelwe eBhayibhileni.

Ngaba zikho ezinye iindlela onokuphendula ngazo xa umntu ekubuza umbuzo othi “Ngaba nyhani usenyulu?” Ukuba kunjalo zibhale apha ngezantsi.

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Isipho Esixabisekileyo

Uvakalelwa njani uThixo xa abantu begqiba ekubeni babe neentlobano zesini bengatshatanga? Masithi uthengele umhlobo wakho isipho. Kodwa uyasivula ungekamniki ngokwakho! Ngaba ubungayi kucaphuka? Ngoko khawucinge indlela  anokuvakalelwa ngayo uThixo xa unokuba neentlobano zesini ungatshatanga. Ufuna ukuba ulinde de utshate ukuze unandiphe isipho seentlobano zesini.—Genesis 1:28.

Yintoni ofanele uyenze xa unomnqweno wesini? Funda ukuwulawula. Unako ukuwulawula! Thandaza kuYehova ukuba akuncede. Umoya wakhe unokukunceda ukwazi ukuzeyisa. (Galati 5:22, 23) Khumbula ukuba uYehova “akayi kubandeza nantoni na elungileyo kwabo bahamba ngokungenamposiso.” (INdumiso 84:11) UGordon oselula uthi: “Xa ndifikelwa yingcinga yokuba ukuba neentlobano zesini ngaphambi komtshato akuphosakalanga kangako, kuye kuthi  qatha indlela okuyingozi ngayo oko ngokomoya yaye ndiyaqonda ukuba akukho sono sifanele sonakalise ulwalamano lwam noYehova.”

Eneneni, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuhlala unyulu. Eyona nto ithob’ isidima, ezintloni neyingozi, kukuziphatha kakubi ngokwesini. Ngoko ke, musa ukuvumela ihlabathi likuhlohle umoya walo wokucinga ukuba kukho into ephosakeleyo ngokubambelela kwimilinganiselo yeBhayibhile. Ngokuhlala unyulu, ukhusela impilo yakho, iimvakalelo zakho yaye—ngaphezu kwako konke, ukhusela ulwalamano lwakho noThixo.

FUNDA OKUNGAKUMBI NGALO MBANDELA KUMQULU 1, ISAHLUKO 24

[Umbhalo osemazantsi]

IZIBHALO EZIBALASELISA

‘Ukuba nabani na wenze isigqibo entliziyweni yakhe, sokugcina ubunyulu bakhe, uya kuba wenza kakuhle.’—1 Korinte 7:37.

ICEBISO

Kuphephe ukunxulumana nabantu abanemilinganiselo ephantsi yokuziphatha, nokuba bathi iinkolelo zabo zonqulo ziyafana nezakho.

NGABA UBUSAZI . . . ?

Abantu abaziphethe kakubi ngokwesini abadli ngokutshintsha naxa sele betshatile. Kodwa, abo babambelela kwimilinganiselo kaThixo xa bengekatshati badla ngokuthembeka nakumaqabane abo omtshato.

OKO NDICEBA UKUKWENZA!

Ukuze ndihlale ndinyulu de nditshate, ndifanele ․․․․․

Ukuba abahlobo bam abasixhasi isigqibo endisenzileyo, ndiza ․․․․․

Oko ndifuna ukukubuza abazali bam ngalo mba ․․․․․

UCINGA NTONI?

● Ucinga ukuba kutheni abanye bebagculela abo banyulu?

● Kutheni kunokuba nzima ukuhlala unyulu?

● Ziziphi iingenelo zokuhlala unyulu de utshate?

● Unokuzichaza njani iingenelo zokuhlala unyulu kumntwana wakowenu ongaphantsi kuwe?

[Amagama acatshulweyo akwiphepha 51]

“Into endikhuthazayo ukuba ndihlale ndinyulu kukwazi ukuba ‘akukho mhenyuzi namntu ungahlambulukanga unelifa ebukumkanini bukaThixo.’” (Efese 5:5)—ULydia

[Ibhokisi ekwiphepha 49]

Isalathiso Samaphepha

Yintoni Eye Yenzeke Ngokwenene?

Oontanga namajelo ezolonwabo awayichazi imiphumo emibi yokuba neentlobano zesini ngaphambi komtshato. Khawucinge ngezi meko zintathu zilandelayo. Ucinga ukuba yintoni eza kwenzeka ngokwenene kolu lutsha?

● Umfana ofunda naye esikolweni uqhayisa ngokulala namantombazana amaninzi. Uthi kumnandi—akukho mntu usala esentlungwini. Ucinga ukuba yintoni ngokwenene eyenzekayo kamva—kuye nakula mantombazana athetha ngawo? ․․․․․

● Imovie iphela kanye xa inkwenkwe nentombazana besiba neentlobano zesini ukubonisa indlela abathandana ngayo. Yintoni ebiza kwenzeka kamva ukuba le ibingeyomovie? ․․․․․

● Udibana nenzwana ize ikucele ukuba nibe neentlobano zesini. Ithi akuyomfuneko ukuba kubekho mntu okwaziyo oko. Ukuba uyavuma, yaye ungaxeleli mntu, yintoni ngokwenene eza kwenzeka kamva? ․․․․․

[Umfanekiso okwiphepha 54]

Ukuba neentlobano zesini ungatshatanga kufana nokuvula isipho ongekasinikwa